Our ceremonies are straight forward, simple, and follow a basic traditional western and American wedding format appropriate for beach weddings.
FYI: Hawaiians did not get married, there is no "traditional" Hawaiian wedding ceremony. Many of these "traditions" are simply made-up by wedding websites, officiates, or so-called "Kahu". With that said, there are some modern "traditions" like the giving of lei and local Hawaiian elements that are a nice addition to any beach wedding in Hawaii.
When you fill out our Prices and Planning Order Form, you're going to select the "Ceremony Type" and the "Ceremony Style".
The "Ceremony Type" is pretty obvious and there is only one applicable selection. We need to know this to assign the properly licensed officiate.
You'll have several choices for your "Ceremony Style". If you do not make a selection, the default is our "Romantic non-religious ceremony".
All ceremonies are created to appeal to the greatest number of people and without offense i.e. none include anything which any normal person would object to hearing or repeating in a ceremony. FYI: Some websites scare you into believing you'll hear "obey" or other archaic wording.
Ceremonies are appropriately personal, but not mushy, thoughtful, but not "preachy". Actual wording will vary from officiate to officiate.
Both marriages and vow renewals are the same in terms of ceremony format and differ only in certain parts and wording simply because, one is a marriage and the other is a renewal :)
Marriage and vow renewal ceremonies usually take about 8-10 minutes and depending upon specifics of the ceremony, ceremony style, and any other ceremony additions up to 12-15 minutes tops.
We do not have written copies of ceremonies to share or approve. Each officiate has their own proprietary "words" and these may vary from ceremony to ceremony depending upon the specifics. Additionally, while we may assign an officiate, that person may change by wedding day.
All ceremonies start with the short introduction (or conch blowing if Hawaiian style), a few words about marriage, commitment, and love, an "affirmation of intent" through the exchange of vows, an exchange of rings (if any), exchange of personal sentiments (if desired), a Hawaiian lei presentation (if any), the pronouncement, the 1st kiss, and certificate and license (if any) signing.
For a marriage, it's the officiate's legal duty to ask, "Do you take XXX to be your wife/husband" as an affirmation of intent and to hear the answer verbalized (and believe it's true LOL). This is done as the rings are exchanged (the sign of your commitment). If no rings, we do it during the lei exchange (if any). If a vow renewal, it's not a legal requirement.
No worries, you do not have to write "vows" but, we do allow time for you to exchange sentiments, expressions of love, or personal "vows" after the exchange of rings or during a lei exchange (if any). It can be as simple as a "I love you" or written. Just let the minister know that day.
FYI: In Hawaii, giving lei is a sign of love, respect, importance, honor, etc., given on special occasions. A Hawaiian lei presentation is also a great way to include your parents, children, and friends in your ceremony.
Romantic: This is a non-religious marriage ceremony i.e. no mention of God in the religious sense. FYI: Our officiates do a lot of weddings of all styles and sometimes a reference to God will slip out. If you absolutely hate the mention of God, we suggest you find another website.
Romantic Christian non-denominational: This is a traditional non-denominational Christian based ceremony. With that said, while don't do "preaching", we do acknowledge that God is part of the ceremony and ask for His blessing.
Romantic Hawaiian or Christian Hawaiian accented ceremony: This is either our Romantic or Christian ceremony and incorporating Hawaiian elements which will give your ceremony a uniquely Hawaiian feel. It includes in addition to our standard ceremony structure, Hawaiian verse, and a conch shell blowing (called a "Pu") by the officiate. Some will wear a Hawaiian theme attire wrap called a "Kihei", others will wear Hawaiian lei. FYI: We add Hawaiian elements that work and are an appropriate addition within the framework of a wedding ceremony. We don't do hula dancers, fire dancers, sacrifices, or any other stupid stuff :)